"Oy Vey! My Son is Gay" is the story of the Hirsch's, a
Jewish family living in the North Shore of Long Island, where
every Friday night Shirley Hirsch (Lainie Kazan) invites another
"perfect" girl for Shabbat dinner in hopes that her son, Nelson
(John Lloyd Young), will marry a nice Jewish girl. When Shirley
and Martin (Saul Rubinek) once again set him up on a date,
Nelson reveals that he is already seeing someone. Shirley and
Martin are thrilled and can’t wait to meet the lucky lady.
In a motherly attempt at finding out who her son is dating,
Shirley stops by Nelson’s apartment. She is greeted by Angelo
Ferraro (Jai Rodriguez), Nelson’s live-in boyfriend, and in
order to not divulge Nelson’s secret life, Angelo introduces
himself as his decorator. Shirley also meets the gorgeous Sybil
(Carmen Electra), Nelson’s neighbor and Playpen magazine
centerfold. Shirley believes that Sybil is Nelson’s mysterious
girlfriend. She is concerned that Sybil isn't Jewish but resigns
to the fact that if her son is happy, that’s all that matters
and she can’t wait for the rest of the family to meet Sybil at
an upcoming wedding.
Nelson attempts to tell his mother that he is gay, but Shirley
is too busy with her own life to listen to her son. After a long
and emotional argument between Nelson and Angelo, Nelson agrees
to take Angelo to his cousin’s wedding, instead of Sybil.
Halfway through the ceremony Nelson finally breaks the news to
his parents that he is gay. At first, Shirley and Martin are
confused and distraught, but when the reality starts to set in
they begin to blame one another for Nelson’s sexuality.
As Shirley and Martin struggle to accept this, they meet with a
psychiatrist, talk with local members of the gay community,
Martin goes to a gay bar in an attempt at understanding his son
and he even goes as far as to try to get Sybil to sleep with
Nelson to make him straight. As a last resort, Shirley and
Martin have dinner with Angelo’s parents, Teresa and Carmine
Ferraro (Vincent Pastore), in order to understand their sons’
lifestyles. Shirley and Teresa have sympathy for one another,
unlike Martin and Carmine, who accuse each other’s son at being
the cause of their own son’s homosexuality.
Both families continue to try to hide the fact their sons are
gay from their friends and co-workers, but when Nelson and
Angelo decide to adopt a baby and it makes headline news, the
two families must unite to defend their sons’ cause. In an
emotional confrontation, the families stand up and fight for
their gay sons’ right against opposition. In an emotional
victory for the two families and the country, the Hirsch's and
the Ferraro's not only accept the fact their sons are gay but
realize how much they love them.
"Oy Vey! My Son is Gay" is the story of the Hirsch's, a
Jewish family living in the North Shore of Long Island, where
every Friday night Shirley Hirsch (Lainie Kazan) invites another
"perfect" girl for Shabbat dinner in hopes that her son, Nelson
(John Lloyd Young), will marry a nice Jewish girl. When Shirley
and Martin (Saul Rubinek) once again set him up on a date,
Nelson reveals that he is already seeing someone. Shirley and
Martin are thrilled and can’t wait to meet the lucky lady. 
As Shirley and Martin struggle to accept this, they meet with a
psychiatrist, talk with local members of the gay community,
Martin goes to a gay bar in an attempt at understanding his son
and he even goes as far as to try to get Sybil to sleep with
Nelson to make him straight. As a last resort, Shirley and
Martin have dinner with Angelo’s parents, Teresa and Carmine
Ferraro (Vincent Pastore), in order to understand their sons’
lifestyles. Shirley and Teresa have sympathy for one another,
unlike Martin and Carmine, who accuse each other’s son at being
the cause of their own son’s homosexuality.